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Her take: “I was dating this guy and everything seemed great, but we never established if we were serious, casual, or something in-between.
I invited another guy to my friend’s birthday party who turned out to be mutual friends with the guy I was seeing.
Those who use phrases similar to “hoping to be friends first” are usually looking for fun rather than commitment, says Laurie Davis, founder and CEO of e Flirt Expert, and author of You can also weed out the casual sex seekers by looking at the context around your planned date: Is he willing to set up a date for a week or so later?
Meet for coffee or in a place where you can hear each other talk?
These miles tend to happen around the three-month point, so use them to see how strong your relationship is, Coffey suggests.
If one of you is ready to meet the parents or take a short trip together and the other isn’t, that’s a good indication that you’re not on the same page and this might not work out, she says.
It’s also easy to build up a fantasy of what someone is like when you’re long distance.
“The weekend didn’t live up to your expectations—but what really happened is that this guy didn’t live up to the expectations that you had created over the prior few months,” says Lissa Coffey, relationship expert and author of Her take: “I used a dating site a few years ago and was linked up with someone that didn't have a photo on his profile.
To be sure you don’t give the wrong impression, “set a date for the future, and make it the right time of day and place so the intention of getting to know each other is there in the beginning,” recommends Ian Kerner, Ph.
D., co-author of Her take: “The first guy I dated when I moved to New York let me take care of him, which I thought would lead to a relationship.
I was doing things for him like baking cookies, redecorating his place, and having lots of sex, but I found out he had no intention of commitment at all.” -Kate, 28.
After a few dates with a guy, you feel like this could lead to something, when suddenly he falls off the face of the earth.
Or it’s been months—he’s even uttered the word “girlfriend”—and out of nowhere he says he’s not ready for a relationship.Men want a woman who needs them and asks things of them, Davis adds.