How often to hang out when dating
'Cause if we're just hanging out then it's not serious and no one's feelings get hurt.' It's total bullsh*t.
Just own it, you don't want to seriously date or meet someone.
"I've come to this conclusion: If I ask you out, or if you ask me out, and it's just the two of us, and we're doing something at a set time (like grabbing dinner or brunch or heading to a movie or a museum), then it's a date.
I dread those in-betweener's (like 'drinks' and 'coffee') because they're not really dates to me."Josh, 28, agrees. Not all guys see dates the same way, which makes it more and more confusing to both parties involved.
One thing's for sure: They can't stand "in-betweeners."So … We asked guys what a date really is, how they know if they're just "hanging out", and what they look forward to when it comes to spending time with someone they're interested in. Jake, 26, says he spends a lot of time arguing with himself over what's a date versus what's not a date.
With so much language swimming around the action of spending time with someone you like, it's no surprise it's hard to define "date."And guys are no exception.
According to a study commissioned by Christian and JDate.com, 69 percent of singles admit they're confused about whether an outing with someone they're interested in is a date or not.
Sunday night, i watched the football games with some friends and then went to the Skybox (strip club). i am telling you this to let you know i didn't hit the brunette up all weekend save for Friday night when we went out on a date.I did it once and it was actually a lot of fun — I'd definitely do it again," says Mark, 25. I asked the same four guys above what they dreaded about a bad date.Nearly all of them said, "coffee and drinks," because the timing is off and it leaves too much pressure on the what-comes-after decision.Don't care if it's coffee or a stroll in the park or dinner at The Darby. You know, I ask my little cousin if he wants to hang out with me — I don't ask a girl that I'm interested in and want to impress if she wants to 'hang out' at a basketball game."Garrett, 24, shares the same frustration, though he adds that meeting someone who wants to "hang out" gives him a better idea of what he's walking into.
If we make plans to get together, it's a date to me — no matter how big or small."Though only 22 percent of the singles surveyed feel like "if I'm asked, then it's date," it seems that guys feel like spending time one-on-one with you is a date. "God," Anthony 33, says right off the bat, "I f*cking hate that term. "I've met girls that want to 'hang out,' and typically, they're the type that are the non-committables.
A woman can tell if a guy is doing this, and if you were doing it to me, you'd find yourself doing all the calling until you were through playing with me.